No, it is not normal, a parent is there to support and encourage, not belittle.
I remember when I was in grade 7 getting my school pictures and thinking they were terrible. My mother tried everything to tell me they were great, and when my father came home she showed him the pics and said she hates them, tell them they are not terrible. To which he replied it's not her fault she's not pretty. I was devastated and still to this day hurt when I think about it and believe that simple phrase ruined my self esteem for life.
I think parents should always think before they speak.
Unfortunately, you have a critical mother and one who is probably focusing on what other people think. She apparently sees you as a reflection of herself and that means that you have to be presentable all the time. It is very difficult to deal a mother who is not empathic and is only thinking of herself. It is the basis of a toxic relationship with a person you want to love. It was emotional to read that you are more worried about your younger sister.
There are no easy answers because you have been a "victim" for a long time. I think the reason you no longer care about yourself is because you
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